The rise of digital communication plays a big role in this trend. With texting, social media, and dating apps constantly available, it’s easier than ever to give the illusion of being involved without actually engaging.
Imagine sending a couple of “hey” messages every day, liking your partner’s photos, and checking in occasionally, all while not really emotionally connecting. This behavior has been normalized by the endless availability of virtual interactions, which make it seem like you’re still “present” in the relationship without actually putting in the real-time effort.
It's no longer about the old-fashioned act of “ghosting,” but rather a slower, quieter disengagement.
This behavior can sometimes be traced back to the increasing focus on individual self-fulfillment and independence in modern society. People today are more concerned about self-care, personal growth, and their own happiness than ever before. Relationships, which used to be a big part of this equation, now seem like just another thing to manage, on top of everything else.
This isn’t just a rejection of the relationship itself, but of the expectations and energy that come with maintaining it. As author and therapist Dr. Laura Berman writes in The Secrets of Sex and Marriage, “When individuals in a relationship fail to feel seen, heard, or understood, they begin to emotionally withdraw, and often, this withdrawal is mistaken for apathy or lack of care”